Remembering Kyle-Forever in my Heart

Thank you, Victoria, for your moving tribute to your son, Kyle.

With your memory and your words you immortalised him, and he will never be forgotten.
Namaste.

Joanna

Thank you for sharing!!.. he has not gone far, he is right there in your heart…. “Life gives us brief moments with another, but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a lifetime, So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.” (Author Unknown)… 🙂

When tomorrow starts without me
And I’m not here to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
Filled with tears for me.

I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things
We didn’t get to say.

I know how much you love me
As much as I love you,
And each time you think of me
I know you’ll miss me too.

When tomorrow starts without me
Don’t think we’re far apart,
For every time you think of me
I’m right there in your heart.
(Alena Hakala Meadows)

Hope all is well in your part of the universe and until we meet again..
May flowers always line your path
and sunshine light your way,
May songbirds serenade your
every step along the way,
May a rainbow run beside you
in a sky that’s always blue,
And may happiness fill your heart
each day your whole life through.
(Irish Saying)

Great post

Blessings to you, Victoria. Thank you

Tears that never dry. Ache that never goes. Love and peace to you, Victoria.

Very moving post.

Oh yes… that is the way I am able to process losses …

When my dad died – of course you know, you cry so much for awhile, until you can not cry anymore

And then what helped us was those memories – we remember all the laughter and funny stories or funny little quirks the person had – or the funny way they did things

Was those things that allowed us to heal a little bit … made us smile to remember ❤️

I will need to remember that when my mom passes 💔 it will probably knock me down for a minute even though we see it coming

I try to cherish everyone dear in my life always cause you never know when those moments will become memories – either for me or for them.

And I also believe no one truly dies… because they have touched YOUR life so you carry that on with YOU… and everyone you touch has a little bit of their influence/memories

Makes impact – they continue on through their impacts on others lives

Am blessed for the moments I was given ❤️

I see so much in the profession I work in – so many times I hear the same thing …

If I could only have 5 more minutes

Or

I wish I would have said or did…

I hear those things all the time and I see all the different ways people grieve

Some handle it fine, some are completely a puddle on my floor …

I always always always tell them about impact makes then continue on in you, and to remember those funny memories so that when you think of them you smile – instead of cry

I also always suggest an outlet for the pain – such as writing ✍️ – it can help processing the loss

Life does go forward whether they with us or not – to remember their impact with love – I think is best honor to remember them with ❤️

I would want to be remembered for the smiles I have given and the impacts I have had ❤️

I would never want it to totally destroy someone I love. I would want them comforted by my funny memories and stories many have lol ❤️ so that my life meant smiles not just defined by pain

My time on earth will be just that – memories and impacts

I hope one day when someone remembers me – it brings a smile through the pain.

So yeah I will have to remember all this when my mother passes lol

But better to have loved and lost – then to never have known that love at all ❤️

I still have moments of sadness over the grief, only because the time was too short … but I do remember all the funny moments and it does help you get through – sometimes even I think I get signs ? Like a smell to make me remember, or a song or numbers … makes me think of people I lost – but I smile to think they are with me?

Currently my mom remembers me … she lights up when I walk in the room and then clings to me the entire time I am there – she never lets go of my arm …

But when I walk in – she knows I am someone close to her – but she can’t remember who and will say “oooooohhhh it’s YOU!” Lol

Yes mum it’s me ❤️ I am her first born – so I am closest to her

I can bring up vacations from the 1980’s and we laugh and laugh and it’s like she’s right there

Sometimes I swear for a quick moment she is there with me – but I don’t know really … just for quick seconds once in a blue moon – I think she is there – or maybe I just wanna believe that because I cling to her ?? But I swear she is!!

It’s ok for her to go when she is ready

I will be sad … but it’s ok … I don’t want her suffering … the love she gave me is enough to carry me through my lifetime, just to have known that love ❤️

You are most welcome and I have always admired your strength – think you are an incredible and strong woman!!

Peace, love and strength to you always ❤️

What an incredible post ❤️

I am a mother too … and makes me think of my own kids and my love for them… I can’t imagine your pain

I don’t know that I would be strong enough for that

You have incredible strength – my heart is with you

The only comfort I can really offer is …

My mom always used to say that when we die… anyone or any pet we loved would be there to comfort and take to other side

It would comfort me a little, but I knew she was only trying to make me feel better

I always took death REALLY hard

To lose her will be hard – but her words will probably comfort me then too.

I would like to think of her back with my dad and her parents … or anyone who loved her and has passed

The thought is comforting even if is just a thought

Sometimes little things catch my attention that remind me of my dad – or for a quick second I smell his scent … he always used to brush his teeth – use scope… used aqua velva after shave lol

But sometimes I can think I also sense him? Or have little signs from him ?

Probably just cause miss so much ?

But yeah loss is hard 💔

I admire your strength ❤️

I have been thinking of you lately – past few weeks … before you liked my post

Just been on my mind for some reason ?? I hope you are well and doing ok 🙂✌️❤️

So many wonderful words from so many people. Your own words, a poignant reminder to all parents to count our blessings that we have not yet lost a child. A reminder that every day is a blessing and a reminder to reach out each day and tell our children we love them dearly, because we know not what tomorrow will bring or take away. Love and blessings. My heart bleeds for you. ❤️

Thank you Victoria! Believe me when I tell you everything you’ve said here now and previously totally registers in my own psyche and heart! I’m sure there wasn’t just some whimsical thinking going on when the first person to coin the phrase of “don’t try to get between a mama bear and her cubs” shared that truth with others! I witnessed firsthand the dirty deeds of the arrogant and vengeful in this world!

Proverbs 17:11-13 “An evil man seeks only rebellion; a cruel messenger will be sent against him. 12It is better to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than a fool in his folly. 13If anyone returns evil for good, evil will never leave his house.”

And so most poignantly and more importantly not only did I identify with your depiction of the quality time you spent with Kyle as a very young boy when I reflected on how my own mother provided that same deep love to me, not only though those early years of my boyhood but also as an adult in times of extreme difficulty that came my way, mother was always there to be supportive and helpful beyond measure! Not only with moral support but as a powerful advocate for her son like no other; just as you’ve been for your beloved son Kyle, which is so inspiring to me, as I’m sure it is to many others out there going through their own personal trials!

And what you said about the maternal love being the strongest force in the Universe, I certainly agree, because I see as you or anyone paying attention can, how many marriages and relationships somehow find their own expiration date and the love goes out the window with the relationship, but, the same cannot be said about “mother and child” bonding; that deepest nurturing love that only a mother can have for her child or in fact any needy child in her charge, because as I’ve already said, mothers and women of that mindset are so blessed and special!

And yes that visceral “living in the moment” as you said, sharing all with each other that each has in their genuine heart and soul, “is really living” and what our journey here is all about, I’m sure of it!

And you most certainly did inspire while building that bond with your son Kyle which you’ve actually carried forward with the “power of love,” “a mother’s love,” which it proves itself to actually transcend time and space as that love still grows and has its purpose both here in this world and beyond where Kyle can more definitively appreciate it than we are able to presently! I’m sure God planned it all; so that love, that deep genuine intrinsic love, is never wasted and will come to its complete fruition when it should; overcoming all barriers and even death!
Here I want to quote a portion of something I had to say to you previously that is always quite clear in my mind.

“Things had been going smooth sailing all along prior to me being a target! So bottom-line is I thank God I went through all of it because it’s a learning curve and process that I was “meant to experience” as I’m “living for God” which hopefully results in my betterment and thus salvation, because nobody is truly worthy “but for the grace of God” and I do believe like my mom always said, “there is always room for improvement!”

You’ve touched my heart also with your genuine grace, love and beauty of soul; which is obviously “full of compassion and caring,” for which I thank you also! We do both indeed appreciate and cherish it and “always will!”

Blessings to you and yours. Amen.

Thanks for sharing these memories ❤️

From one mum to another mom – no parent should lose their children. It’s not biological. Memories still don’t fill the gap between wanting to hold your child. Until you walk in those shoes, you never will. Those friends who cross the street on the other side, forgive them 😔 My life changed. People commented, “what’s wrong? You are different.” 😔 yes, I was. Then something transpired. I saw a glow in a window of an old building. I walked through the doors and sat in the back, listening to the stories of the suffering of New life. They were me! The following week I sat 💺 in the back of the hall. This went on for a month or so. Some already knew me. This time it was going to be my turn. They were the day I started living for others, more importantly for my child. Zack’s like must not be in vain. I will share more Shalom 😔

I am sorry for your loss though I believe that those we love never really die. It is just the continuity of their bodily presence that lacks in our lives. That lack may seem crushing but we must see beyond so they may live within us.

Victoria, your posting struck a chord immediately even though I read your previous postings about your son Kyle and “his story” and had been quite moved, the timing of your current message and the realization of how “crucial and powerful a mother’s love” for her child actually is! Without that love this world wouldn’t be nearly as tolerable, because love is the key to really living with meaning or purpose; and it all “starts with the mother!” Who of course carries her child in those earliest formative months; but then, also “her love and drive to nurture while strengthening that child, is critically important for so many years to come!

And amazingly it carries forward even in this so difficult circumstance when a child leaves this world before his parents as evidenced by your “love and dedication” expressed here in your writings through your unceasing commitment to your son Kyle, which I’m sure he appreciates more fully being beyond the hardship of this world that we all face in earthly life day to day! And this you have evidenced now by not only “telling Kyle a story” as you always did during his childhood years when you both were together; but now in spirit you are writing and telling him a very important true story; “his story,” which is full of love!

And I must thank you for doing all of this, especially stirring in me what “a mother’s love” is really all about and causing me to reflect on my own mother’s love for me over the years, but, especially as I remember those “simple innocent days” in my own past when I was a little boy, when my mother took such good care of me, and even told me some stories too!

Both you Victoria and your son Kyle have given us out here in the big world something very valuable and precious! Thank you very much!

God’s blessings to you.

Life is like that with mixing of sorrow and happiness!

Deeply touching and straight to the heart! But also a great testimony and powerful expression of love from you to your son Kyle!

This line, “tell me a story, mommy,” bought a tear to my eyes and touches the soul; such beauty and innocence coming from the love between a mother and her precious baby boy!

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, put me in your heart; I’ll stay there forever.” A. A. Milne had the right idea, and like I say that bond between a mother and her child can never be broken!

I’ve written and often said that women are so blessed and have that special miraculous ability to carry and bear another human being, and that during the pregnancy two humans are joined together in that special way so completely, sharing everything they are both physically and spiritually which creates a bond between them that can “Never” be broken!

You are so right; “I’m so sorry, Kyle, that not every story has a happy ending.”

But that is here in this temporary short life and the real prize or reward is waiting for each of us beyond this passage, perhaps like the saying “somewhere over the rainbow,” but more accurately “in the eternal realm where God puts things right” and there is no suffering or sadness anymore, only beauty and happiness beyond our limited corporeal imaginations or limitations!
Amen.

God bless you, Kyle and your entire family! I believe this personal sacrifice by Kyle and you along with others is not the least bit in vain, because it has added exponential graces to those still here living without him by their sides and for those who his story has touched; and only for now he is in your aching hearts this way; but you will be in “full presence” someday again, altogether as the family God intended since before any of this world was here! “God is the Alpha and the Omega!”

Yes, the good memories shine through the darkness — and in that sense your son is still alive.

My respect for your openness and for sharing these deepest feelings that you have expressed very nicely.

A.A. Milne’s poignant words encapsulate pure love.